As we approach the end of this month it is time for me to set myself 3 new goals for March. I try and do this each month to focus my mind and to help myself feel a sense of achievement, as I am usually a massive procrastinator.
Usually I will set myself 3 easily achievable tasks. What I actually mean by ‘easily achievable’ is that I don’t tend to set too many boundaries on each goal. For instance I won’t say “eat healthy every day this month” or “drink 2 liters of water everyday”as for me this makes the whole process less enjoyable and more stressful which defeats the objective. Obviously everyone is different and therefore should tailor their goals to meet their needs however, personally I think this would make me less likely to actually achieve any of my goals. We all know each day is different and presents different difficulties which would make ‘boundaries’ such as these difficult to stick to on a day-to-day basis. Remember, setting these goals are supposed to motivate you and make you feel good; not make you stressed!
The way I like to plan my goals generally is as follows; 1 of the tasks will be something to better myself, 1 will be something enjoyable i.e: ‘me time’ and the last will be an activity with family or friends. For me this is the balance I need each month to keep myself feeling happy and constantly motivated. For instance, my 3 goals for February were; 1) start my driving lessons, 2) book a holiday and 3) get prepared for my new job.
My goals will change month on month depending on what I am planning on doing, or how I am feeling at the time. At the moment I am feeling a little less confident about the way I look and also want to work on my fitness (it’s appalling how unfit I am for my age!) so my first goal will be to sign up to the gym so that I can start going to spin classes again. Next I’d like to treat my Mum and Nana on Mother’s day and take them out for a lovely, relaxing breakfast to show them how much they mean to me and for my 3rd goal I’d like to tick something off my bucket list and get a tattoo!
So my goals for March are as follows;
1. Sign up to gym and go to spin classes
2. Spend time with mum and nana on mother’s day
3. Get a tattoo!
I challenge you to do something similar to this yourself in March! You will be surprised how happy and well-rounded it will make you feel. Let me know in the comments if you have any tips for a healthier mind or if you do something similar to this already
You can read further about the effect that accomplishing goals has on our brains here.
Not getting the best grades in my A-Levels and choosing not to go to university is what initially sparked my want to start a written blog. All of my closest friends were getting excited to go to their chosen university and were investing a lot of their time sorting out which duvet covers they wanted for their new dorm bed or how many strings of fairy lights that they would need to cover their entire room whilst I was wondering what the hell had just happened, how it could of happened and wtf did this mean for my future career now?! I was convinced for weeks my life was over and I may as well hibernate for the rest of eternity.
This left me feeling incredibly lost because for the first time in 4 years there was 0 pressure on me to complete anything and I no longer had any deadlines to meet; heck, if I wanted to I could stay in bed for days on end and no one would be calling home to check why I wasn’t in that day. Although, this could potentially sound like bliss after being in school for the past 13, 14 years I craved something to focus on. So I made this blog as a way to connect with loads of other people who have similar interests to me and also so I had something to concentrate on and put my spare time in to whilst I found a job.
2 months on from receiving my A-Level results (and after I stopped feeling sorry for myself) I managed to find myself a little job working in a solicitors as a receptionist and office junior. This job offered me everything I was looking for; somewhere I could build my confidence, meet new people and potentially could be somewhere I progress my working career (and of course, earn a bit of money!).I love my job and I’ve really settled in and become content in the role. But that was always going to be it, I was just content. Don’t get me wrong, I was incredibly grateful for my job but I knew I wanted something that would push me a little bit more and make me work my butt off like I had done in college, so when the chance came round to work in the matrimonial department as an assistant of course I jumped at it! Thankfully the lady who was head of the department started in the same was as I had; as an office junior. All of the other applicants for the job were far more experienced in the role but I think the legal executive saw herself in me and decided to give me a chance like she had been given when she was just an office junior. I start my new job next Monday and I couldn’t be happier or feel any luckier. 6 months ago I felt completely lost and like a disappointment to my family and college and now I can’t imagine being in uni doing the course I originally applied for. I still may go to uni or even back to college to further my qualifications and work up to being a legal executive but these short 6 months have opened my eyes a lot to the ‘real life’ outside of school and college.
Of course, everyone’s experience is different but I feel the path I am on is the right one for me at this point in my life and I just wanted to share my thoughts and journey so far, if you can even call 6 months a journey, as I am aware that exams for the current year 11s and sixth formers are fast approaching. Please don’t be afraid because whatever happens in life, however s****y it feels at the time, it is what is meant to be for you.
Thank you for reading and following my little journey whilst I am feeling inspired, hopefully my next post will be less preachy and more to do with makeup again but until then…
At the end of January my boyfriends family kindly booked for us all to go away for a long weekend at Centre Parcs for Caitlin’s 21st.
After a beautiful and incredibly scenic drive through Cumbria, we arrived and hurried in to our cosy lodge. The lodge itself had 3 double bedrooms, all en suite and it even had its own sauna. Myself and Jack picked which bedroom we wanted, which had a beautiful view in to the forest and a double shower! We quickly unpacked all of our food and suitcases for the next few days and spent the rest of the evening getting to know our surroundings and relaxing in front of the log fire.
Most of our day’s were spent in the amazing pool/waterpark that all of the Centre Parcs that I have previously visited had. However, on our second evening we went and played bowling. The lovely staff there even provided a bottle of moet as it was Caitlin’s 21st.
Jack and myself spent our last full day exploring the forest on our bikes. The weather turned out to be beautiful for this time of year and the lake was even frosted over which made it even more picturesque.
After exploring and working up an appetite we headed over to the Village for some lunch. We shared a cheeseboard and some garlic prawns at Cafe Rouge; which was set up beautifully to make you feel almost as if you were sat at a suave cafe on a street in midtown Paris (apart from the children’s play area behind us which was empty and therefore thankfully easy to ignore!). We have loved garlic prawns ever since visiting Barcelona on our first ever holiday together and although the one’s served at Cafe Rouge were delicious, they were no where near the same quality or quantity as those we have previously loved eating. Nevertheless, our lunch was delicious and it was just lovely to stop for a moment and spend some quality time together just talking and eating all the food we love to share.
We all went to the waterpark together on our last evening in Whinfell forest where we relaxed in the out door pools and had as many goes as we possibly could on the exciting indoor and outdoor waterslides. Then it was time to pack and cuddle up next to the log fire for one last time.
Visiting Centre Parcs always feels very nostalgic and is a home-from-home for me as it is somewhere I have been to many times with my own family since being a little girl. In fact some of my earliest memories of Christmas were from my first trip to Centre Parcs. This latest trip lived up to everything I remember Centre Parcs being; that cosy, magical and incredibly charming place that everyone of every age loves and I hope to visit again soon.
I’d also like to thank my boyfriend’s amazing family for being kind enough to take me on this amazing getaway and let me share such an important family trip with them all. Thank you all xx